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Without respect for oneself, a marriage will be brought down. Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” “Undefiled” means “without stain or blemish.” Porn is a stain. She has been married to her husband, Matt, for nearly 5 years and has two “fur-babies” (Kevin the dog and Ella the cat).
Without knowledge of how you were designed (in God’s image) and without living in light of that knowledge, a marriage will suffer. It’s that nasty grass stain that will never come out of a white t-shirt. Matthew says, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” No arguing with that one. Erin holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a Master’s degree in Counseling.
I might think I am not pretty enough, not sexy enough, or not worthy of love and affection. While pornography will always be a struggle and temptation that we will seek to conquer, He has blessed us with an incredible marriage despite the evil that has threatened our relationship.
While the struggle with porn is far greater than what the wife may think, the issue of self-worth is still there. He has healed us from comparing or being fearful of comparison.
Invite anyone into your marriage—past, present, or future—and that person will always be somewhere in your mind. If a man sees an image of a naked woman, what happens when he sees his wife naked in a few hours?In my own experience, and in talking to numerous other wives who have been through this, the question rolling through our minds is “Am I not good enough?” If we know our husbands are looking at other women, it must mean that they don’t think we are enough for them.I would also argue that looking at porn is a self-worth issue for both men women. He has taken away the lies and silence that held my husband for so many years before he told me about his struggle.When one becomes upset with him/herself, going into “another world” can be an easy escape from reality—one that always appears to fulfill and bring pleasure no matter what the real-life circumstances may be. He has restored our self-worth and made us feel like royal children (as we all are! He has completely brought back all intimacy that was lost and not only that, has made it better!